I grew up in both small towns and big cities (though I wouldn't say anything particularly rural) and the lack of perspective people show in this respect is kind of shocking. It's exactly the same as someone going "Oh they don't have Taco Bell in Botswana!?!?!? Really?!?!?!?!?!?! Like... what!??!?!?!" » 3/27/15 2:25pm Today 2:25pm

My heart is with you. I lost my father last year to colon cancer. It is very difficult that the world won't stop moving even though what we need more than ever is to pause and live mindfully and enjoy our time together. It's especially difficult because, while we're always prioritizing things by what's most… » 3/26/15 4:47pm Yesterday 4:47pm

The presumption of agency is so disgusting. Why is it that we understand that a whipped dog may very well bite, and forgive the animal that "had no choice," and yet perceive every broken human situation as the just and right consequences of their own faulty decision-making? » 3/25/15 4:53pm Wednesday 4:53pm

Your well-deserved rant and the comments here make me want to create a map of the various flavors of bad drivers. In Chicago, driving was a white-knuckle hellsport. Out here in KC, people drive 5-10 under and can't figure out how to negotiate a roundabout. I honestly felt like the "best" driving city I've… » 3/25/15 1:09pm Wednesday 1:09pm

I volunteer with exchange programs so this is very familiar :) We also appraise families to see if they can be trusted with an exchange student, which always feels kind of strange to me since I've never raised kids of my own. » 3/25/15 12:50pm Wednesday 12:50pm

I bought one of those $100+ super-remotes to get rid of the ever-expanding pile on my coffee table, and it works fine but all of the exciting sounding stuff (set up automatic macros and routines! use your cell phone to control any device!) is actually pretty limited and there's a crushing, overwhelming sense of "you… » 3/24/15 3:45pm Tuesday 3:45pm

I think the self-identification aspect is what steps it away from some other racial epithets. Which is in and of itself an interesting thing and I tend to think it speaks to the way that the class/economic judgment is "softened" by the inalienable privilege that whiteness brings. At least, that's what I see in my… » 3/11/15 4:58pm 3/11/15 4:58pm

I think this article is really gross. REALLY gross. Everyone deserves the time and space to let their emotions out and seek validation, but that step comes WELL BEFORE you start writing articles in widely distributed publications. The point, repeatedly, goes well beyond "I feel hurt" to "I am disgusted/grossed out… » 3/09/15 1:33pm 3/09/15 1:33pm