I think one can only be confessional if the thing you're describing is seen as transgressive, and men are given the latitude to do whatever they feel like doing in their lives while women's lives are still bound by what is "proper" for a woman. I think there's a heavy element of "a man is the actor, a woman is the… » 4/09/15 4:16pm 4/09/15 4:16pm

Hmm, I took it more as a reminder that there are no objective measures to measure beauty by and what's important is how we feel about ourselves. This part is subjective, but I think that many of us do not actually get openly appraised on our looks (we may interpret that to be happening, and we may interpret it… » 3/31/15 3:55pm 3/31/15 3:55pm

I grew up in both small towns and big cities (though I wouldn't say anything particularly rural) and the lack of perspective people show in this respect is kind of shocking. It's exactly the same as someone going "Oh they don't have Taco Bell in Botswana!?!?!? Really?!?!?!?!?!?! Like... what!??!?!?!" » 3/27/15 2:25pm 3/27/15 2:25pm

My heart is with you. I lost my father last year to colon cancer. It is very difficult that the world won't stop moving even though what we need more than ever is to pause and live mindfully and enjoy our time together. It's especially difficult because, while we're always prioritizing things by what's most… » 3/26/15 4:47pm 3/26/15 4:47pm

The presumption of agency is so disgusting. Why is it that we understand that a whipped dog may very well bite, and forgive the animal that "had no choice," and yet perceive every broken human situation as the just and right consequences of their own faulty decision-making? » 3/25/15 4:53pm 3/25/15 4:53pm

I volunteer with exchange programs so this is very familiar :) We also appraise families to see if they can be trusted with an exchange student, which always feels kind of strange to me since I've never raised kids of my own. » 3/25/15 12:50pm 3/25/15 12:50pm

I bought one of those $100+ super-remotes to get rid of the ever-expanding pile on my coffee table, and it works fine but all of the exciting sounding stuff (set up automatic macros and routines! use your cell phone to control any device!) is actually pretty limited and there's a crushing, overwhelming sense of "you… » 3/24/15 3:45pm 3/24/15 3:45pm

Mine is a literal illustration of my alias. I like consistency! I also still think it's a fairly good metaphor for the vulgarity of the American bourgeoisie yadda yadda yadda ;) » 3/16/15 12:19pm 3/16/15 12:19pm

I think the self-identification aspect is what steps it away from some other racial epithets. Which is in and of itself an interesting thing and I tend to think it speaks to the way that the class/economic judgment is "softened" by the inalienable privilege that whiteness brings. At least, that's what I see in my… » 3/11/15 4:58pm 3/11/15 4:58pm

The author has feelings and is entitled to them. But I think it is quite insensitive to take to a public forum in the way this author has and present a mix of 1. her feeling betrayed and 2. some serious transphobia and trash-talking on her partner and expect validation for that. I have some reservations to taking to… » 3/09/15 1:38pm 3/09/15 1:38pm